My Thoughts on Divorce

Recently I was asked “If your business was a MOVEMENT, what would that look like?” Here is my answer:

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A movement to change the way we view divorce. Divorce is a family problem with a legal side effect. The court system treats divorce like a legal problem with a family side effect. My movement would be about a paradigm shift. In my opinion, during divorce–much of the time–there is no need for the legal investigation and adversarial attitude that is necessary when one is engaged in a fight with a legal opponent (like an insurance company). But many lawyers don’t seem able to see the difference.

 

I am certainly not pro-divorce. In fact, I wish we could use pre-marital education to bring an end to divorce. However, it appears that for a variety of physical, psychological, social, and spiritual reasons that is not going to happen any time soon.

 

In my experience, when a marriage is dead, divorce can bring about a life altering transformation that propels a man or woman (a) through an assessment process and (b) into a re-building phase that leads to a redesigned life, which is a more accurate reflection of the wo/man’s current desires and identity.

 

Over the past 35 years I have studied the divorce process and written about it extensively. You can find just about everything I have to say about divorce on www.AFriendlyDivorce.com, www.TheDivorceCoachInstitute.com, and my blog on blogspot https://elinorrobin.blogspot.com/search?q=divorce. And, if you don’t want to read, preferring to listen, there is my podcast The Divorce Depot. Season 2 of the Divorce Depot podcast has video so you can watch as you listen. Finally, Click Here to find more divorce related videos on my YouTube channel.